Psychology only child dating
The myth of the “peculiar” only child originated in the late 19th century, when a psychologist surveyed more than 1,000 kids (only 46 of whom were only children) and deemed sibling-free children more likely to be “ugly, poorly behaved, and stupid.” Unforunately, this stereotype has stuck around for more than 100 years, despite plenty of evidence to the contrary—including a large study that found only children have no disadvantage when it comes to social skills.
Let’s be real: , a large amount of research shows “singletons are no more spoiled than the overall population.” Which isn’t to say we’re not any less materialistic than others—nowadays, most parents (59 percent according to one poll) admit to spoiling their kids, regardless of how many they have.
I know this can come across as slightly bossy, but when it comes to projects at work or school, it can be a great thing: I’ll always take the lead!
And I’ll often do more than my fair share so I can see things through.
But I still feel a little sheepish before I post a photo on Instagram or send a Tweet, and now I know why: Only children tend to “feel socially self-conscious, and value privacy, from growing up being the sole focus of unrelenting parental scrutiny,” Pickhardt writes on Psychology Today.
Ah, it all makes sense: My life is already under a microscope at home; I don’t need it picked apart on social media too.
D., author of , told Vice, and “they can be pretty critical when they don’t do as well as they like.” (I still remember beating myself up about a B- I got in chemistry.) The good part?
I didn’t grow up with siblings barging into my room and messing with my stuff, so I’m not used to people re-arranging my kitchen cabinets or shuffling through my files at work.
I love chatting with people one-on-one, and sometimes, after enough wine, I can be one of the most outgoing people at a party.
But as an only child, I can get super quiet in a huge group, especially if I don’t know the people really well.
”While I maintain I’m just as “normal” as anyone else, growing up as an only child definitely molded my personality and behavior in certain ways.
I can thank my sibling-free status for some super-positive qualities (studious, self-motivated), as well as some less-than-great character traits (sensitive, Type A).